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MELISSA HIEBERT STAFF

Anal sex. There, I said it. It’s too late to go run and cover your ears, so you might as well hear me out. Oh admit it, you’re just a little curious, aren’t you?

Anal sex is often taboo. It’s not something that many couples feel comfortable talking about, as it may be characterized as “dirty” or “wrong.” However, as society turns more to sexual experimentation, anal sex has become more normative part of sexual relations between partners.

It’s something that it seems most every guy dreams about, and most every girl would wish they would forget about already. Often, anal sex is appealing to men in virtue of its hush-hush status — that anal sex is somehow “adventurous” and that the associated dirty-ness is a huge turn- on. Also, men tend to claim that the rear is a lot tighter, and therefore more pleasurable.

However, women are often on the other side of the fence. The reason why many women seem to dislike the idea is because it simply seems uncomfortable or painful. The general thought is that we’re dealing with a very sensitive area, and that something going in the “out hole” is not right. However, when done properly, anal sex can actually be pleasurable and exciting for the woman as well.

There are a few obvious tricks to make anal sex go more smoothly, and optimize enjoyment for both parties. Naturally, anal sex is something that you have to build up to slowly. Instead of getting overexcited and trying to go all the way right away, make sure to first try to stimulate the area, and try working up slowly, getting used to the feeling, and then go from there.

Another key to going through the backdoor is tons of lube. Like, a whole tube of it, really. Without this, the experience will not be pleasant for anyone, very painful, and may end in one big, ahem, mess.

The most important factor though, is to make sure both partners trust each other, and respect one another’s limits. If both partners are not relaxed, the experience will be awkward and uncomfortable. If the woman is not fully relaxed, she will tense up and this will cause pain, as well as significantly reduce the chances of a repeat encounter.

However, as with all sexual encounters, one must be careful; condoms have a tendency to break more easily when engaging in anal sex, and anal sex has a higher rate of transmission of the HIV/AIDS virus than other STI’s.

So overall, anal sex can be an exhilarating, deliciously nasty, and fun sexual experience for everyone involved, as long as both partners are comfortable and on board with the idea. However, my suggestion to men trying to talk their partners into anal sex: stick a dildo up your ass to see how it feels, and then you might be more apt to proceed in a tactful and respectful manner. And your partner might be more likely to consider it.